What No One Tells You to Do After a Cancer Diagnosis (But Should)
Articles | What No One Tells You to Do After a Cancer Diagnosis (But Should)
Few words hit harder than: “You have cancer.” Whether it’s said gently across a doctor’s desk or read silently in a pathology report, those three words shift the ground beneath you.
As someone with a background in translational cardiovascular and oncology research—and as a patient advocate—I’ve seen firsthand how overwhelming that moment can be. Here’s what I want you to know: You have options. You have power. And you do not have to do this alone.
Step 1: Breathe. Then Get the Facts
Your first instinct might be to panic, shut down, or jump into Googling mode. I understand. But take a deep breath. The most important thing right now is clarity.
Ask your doctor:
What type of cancer is it?
What is the stage and grade?
What are the treatment options and goals?
What tests are still needed to confirm the diagnosis?
Have someone with you, if possible. Record the conversation or take notes. This is the beginning of building your care team.
Step 2: Seek a Second Opinion
Yes—you are allowed to get a second opinion, and in many cases, you should.
A second opinion can:
Confirm the diagnosis
Offer a different treatment approach
Help you feel more confident in your decision
Most insurance plans cover second opinions. Academic medical centers, NCI-designated cancer centers, or large hospitals often have specialists who deal with rare or complex cancers.
It’s not about distrust—it’s about empowerment.
Step 3: Consider a Health Consultant or Death Doula
Cancer affects more than the body—it touches every part of your life. A medical consultant or patient advocate can help you:
Understand your medical records
Navigate clinical trials
Coordinate care across specialties
A death doula may sound intimidating, but it’s not just for end-of-life. Many doulas provide holistic emotional support, help facilitate tough conversations, and bring dignity and intention to both life and transition. Even in curative cases, having someone grounded in presence and care can be a gift.
Step 4: Decide on a Power of Attorney (POA)
A POA is not giving up control. It’s protecting your wishes.
There are two main types:
Medical Power of Attorney – allows someone to make healthcare decisions on your behalf if you can’t
Financial Power of Attorney – allows someone to handle bills, insurance, and finances if you’re unable to
Choose someone you trust, who understands your values. You can revise this document anytime. It’s best to have it in place before you need it.
Step 5: Set Up a Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA)
A Durable Power of Attorney goes a step further—it remains in effect even if you become incapacitated. This can cover:
Health care decisions
Financial decisions
Legal actions on your behalf
Why is this important? Because life can change quickly with cancer. A DPOA ensures continuity of care and clarity in moments when decisions must be made quickly and compassionately.
Choosing someone to act as your DPOA is not just a legal step—it's an act of love and protection for both yourself and those you trust most.
Final Thoughts
This journey is not one-size-fits-all. You don’t need to know everything today. What matters is having a plan, building your team, and honoring your values.
You are still the author of your life—even now.
If you or someone you love is navigating a new diagnosis, I’m here to answer questions or connect you to resources. You are not alone.
Anberitha Matthews, PhD Clinical Researcher | Patient Advocate | Cancer & Cardiovascular Science Expert 📩 RedefiningHealthLLC.CPR@gmail.com
